Introduction
Almost everyone
can describe an experience they have had when a conversation about religion
came up unexpectedly. One of the most common ways this experience is
characterized is awkward. What makes
this situation so awkward? Are these conversations doomed to be forever labeled
as such, or can something be done to help them be natural? To discover these
answers, I chose to research the causes of awkwardness in religious
conversations and make an effort to develop guidelines which could help these
conversations function more naturally and effectively. Specifically, I hoped to
find that phrasing and word choice play a part in how natural a religious
conversation feels to the recipient.
For the purposes
of this paper, a religious conversation is any which is directed by the
believer of a religion and focuses on the topic of religion. Because
Christianity is the faith I am most familiar with, I found it easiest to
reference Christian-based religious discourse in my research. Most commonly,
awkward religious conversations are those involving proselytization, or what a
Christian might calling sharing one’s faith. Although coercion and
insensitivity are frequently topics which arise when discussing this topic, for
the success of my paper it was necessary to limit my focus strictly to
awkwardness. However, as will be disclosed, those guidelines which guide an
unawkward conversation are by nature those which guide one of respect and
sensitivity.
For my purposes,
awkwardness is considered to be the feeling of tension one has in a situation
of discomfort. It is an internal feeling usually developed in a social context
when something unpleasant or unexpected happens. Awkwardness is a problem for
people because it not only creates temporary discomfort, but also makes them
less likely to enter into that type of situation again. I believe that
awkwardness in religious conversations is not necessary and can be avoided by
following particular guidelines and by developing greater sensitivity to the
comfort level of one’s conversation partner.
Although plenty
of Christian literature considers the “how to’s” of sharing one’s faith, little
is said about the topic of awkwardness. Few consider the perspective of the
recipient, including any discussion of their comfort level. Phrasing and
diction, as far as I could find, are left out entirely as possible factors. The
methods of writing studies, especially that of discourse analysis, are
particularly useful for this field of study. It is important to contribute a
discussion of discourse into that of religious conversation because it is so
much a part of how these conversations function. The success, sensitivity, and
comfort level of these conversations will hinge on many factors. It is
necessary to consider language features specifically play a role so that we can
consider specific moves to avoid when aiming for a natural religious
conversation.
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